Someone recently told me that I’m pretty much only worth reading when I’m ranting about or mocking something. So, there are precisely five types of friends:
1. Ignorable. In many ways, these are the closest friends. You always want some friends with such a high mutual comfort level that you can watch TV together and not have to speak to each other with no love lost. Sometimes it’s nice to be social without being social at all. Downside: easy to get in a rut with these friends and forget about the others.
2. Available. It’s also nice to have great friends that are highly likely to accept your invitations. Sometimes they stay too long and require too much awkward conversation, but if you didn’t have them you would miss them in short order. Downside: unlikely to be the gateway to a unique social network; you probably are their social network.
3. Sociable. These can be some of the best friends to hang out with, and probably there for you when you need them, but their time always seems to be in high demand — perhaps they have many other friends who feel the same way about them? Downside: if you get an invite to hang solo with them, it probably means they’re out of options. Also most likely to arrive with three friends you’ve never met.
4. Unpersuadable. Definitely also fun to hang out with, there when you need them, etc., but mostly available only at times of their choosing. Hard to get them out on short notice. In other words, much like #3, except their better option is usually their routine. Downside: be prepared to tolerate excuses like tired after a long day at work, have to go to the grocery store — or, in the case of women, already put on pajamas.
5. Affable. The casual friend is an excellent subset of friend, provided you don’t assume it’s more than it is. You can show up at random to each other’s events and be welcomed into the mix, but invites are rarely accepted and no-shows rarely come with a passable excuse — but you’re in the Acquaintance Zone, so why would they? Downside: unless already out with a group you can join, they’re unlikely to be your no-plans-on-a-Saturday-night social crutch.
Okay, of course some friends are combinations of #1-5, but most people like lists and hate permutations. The people who prefer to read about the 5! types of friends are likely not my friends.
I trust no actual friends were harmed in the writing of this post.